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프롤로그 ㆍ 16

Part 1 고정관념 깨뜨리기

요즘 엄마들 ················································· 31
사건에 대한 견해 차이 ······································· 37
자존감·감정 육아의 현실 ····································· 49
육아의 목표는 높은 회복탄력성 ······························· 54
육아는 디테일의 종합예술 ···································· 65



Part 2 혼자일 때 더 잘하는 아이로 키우는 비법

3단계 시뮬레이션 기법 ······································· 73
규칙은 비인간적이지 않다 ···································· 90
3단계 -피드백하는 법 · ····································· 108
3단계 시뮬레이션 실천사례 1 - 미용실에 혼자 가기 - ················· 112
3단계 시뮬레이션 실천사례 2 - 영화관에 혼자 가기 - ················· 144
아동의 능력을 업그레이드한다 ······························· 157


Part 3 규칙을 잘 지키게 하려면

규칙은 어마어마하게 중요하다 ······························· 181
〈스스로 잘하는 아이〉로 만드는 규칙 훈육법 ·················· 188
즉각적 훈육이 필요할 때 · ··································· 198
떼부리는 아이 대처법 ······································· 203
자녀의 도발에 휘둘리지 않는 법 ····························· 209
권위에 도전하는 아이들 ····································· 215
규칙 다지기 ················································ 227
부모는 자발적 ‘을’이다 ······································ 246

Part 4 게임ㆍ미디어 중독을 막으려면

독립과 방치는 다르다 ······································· 253
부모도 게임을 공부해라 ····································· 267
우리 아들 게임 통제법 · ····································· 272
우리 딸 스마트폰 통제법 ···································· 283

Part 5 문제해결력이 높은 아이로 만들려면

메타인지 공부법 ············································ 291
자기주도학습을 잘하게 하려면 ······························· 300
친구 같은 부모 되면 큰일 난다 ······························· 328
즉각 대답하지 마라 ········································· 333
갈등은 좋은 것이다 ········································· 341

Part 6 책 잘 읽는 아이로 만들려면

책을 싫어하는 아이는 없다 ·································· 349
학습 만화를 읽는 아이들 ···································· 353
독서 습관은 선택 아닌 필수 ································· 363
국어의 중요성이 커지고 있다 ································ 367
문해력 키우는 노하우 ······································· 371
나의 책 육아 전쟁기 ········································ 376

Part 7 꼴찌 엄마도 성공한 1등 육아법

당신은 세계 최고의 엄마다 ·································· 401
꼴찌 엄마의 육아 투쟁기 ···································· 410
엄마가 편해야 자녀도 편하다 ································ 415
다양한 육아관이 함께하는 세상 ······························ 419
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